How to Transform Holiday Stress into Joy: A Beginner’s Mind Approach
Dec 02, 2024
Here’s the thing about the holidays—they’re a mixed bag. One minute you’re soaking up the glow of twinkling lights, and the next, you’re overwhelmed by the mile-long to-do list, the emotional tug-of-war, and the sheer stuff of the season.
I get it. Trust me, I’m right there with you. Just the other morning, as I sat with my journal and a mug of coffee, I felt it all: the joy of Thanksgiving still lingering, the ache of missing my parents, the pressure of year-end business goals, and the looming whirlwind of holiday planning.
But instead of letting those feelings spiral, I made a choice. I decided to approach this moment differently. To see it with fresh eyes, like a beginner seeing the world for the first time. Let me share how that shifted everything for me—and how it can for you too.
The Swirl of Holiday Emotions
If you’re anything like me, this time of year is full: full of family memories, financial commitments, business wrap-ups, and oh yeah, trying to find the perfect gift for everyone.
Just a few days ago, I found myself sitting in a very quiet house after being away for the Thanksgiving Holiday. And the silence hit hard. I missed the laughter, the noise, busyness with family and friends. Then came the overwhelm—how was I going to get it all done? The gifts, the business planning, the meals?
But instead of letting those thoughts drag me down, I paused. I took a breath and decided to lean into the present moment. That’s when I remembered something powerful: the concept of a beginner’s mind.
What Is Beginner’s Mind?
Beginner’s mind is about seeing the world as if you’ve never experienced it before. Think about how kids light up over things we might take for granted—like the first snowfall or a glittering ornament. They don’t bring their past experiences or assumptions into the moment; they just experience it.
As adults, we often do the opposite. We carry baggage—our stress, our past disappointments, our expectations—into the present. But here’s the thing: every moment is a chance to start fresh, if we let it be.
How I Applied Beginner’s Mind in My Life
When I noticed myself sinking into the holiday overwhelm, I decided to pivot. Here’s what I did:
- Paused and Noticed
I grabbed my coffee, sat by the window, and just noticed. I felt the warmth of the mug, the quiet of the house, and yes, the ache in my heart. But instead of running from those feelings, I let them be. I reminded myself that this moment, right here, was unique. It had never happened before, and it would never happen again. - Chose to See the Newness
I looked around the room. Instead of seeing the emptiness, I noticed the glow of the morning light, the coziness of the throw blanket, and the simple beauty of the holiday decorations I’d put up. - Let Go of the Old Story
Normally, I’d replay the same tired thoughts: “There’s too much to do” or “I wish the kids were still here.” But this time, I told myself: This is a new moment. Let’s see what it holds. - Found Joy in the Smallest Things
Later that day, while wrapping a gift, I noticed how smooth the paper felt, how satisfying the sound of scissors was. Those little moments of presence were like tiny gifts I didn’t expect.
Why This Works
By approaching the day with a beginner’s mind, I noticed something incredible: my stress didn’t disappear, but it lost its power. Instead of getting stuck in the swirl of emotions, I felt more grounded, more curious, and even a little joyful.
Here’s why it works:
- You break the cycle of autopilot thinking.
Instead of reacting to life, you start experiencing it. - You create space for joy.
Even small moments, like hearing holiday music or sipping tea, become sweeter. - You remind yourself of what matters.
When you’re present, you’re not worrying about what’s next—you’re here, now.
Your Turn: How to Try Beginner’s Mind
Here’s how you can practice this, starting today:
- Pause and Check In
When you feel overwhelmed, stop. Notice your thoughts, your breath, and the sensations in your body. - Ask Yourself, “What’s New Here?”
Look around.
What’s something you’ve never noticed before? Maybe it’s the sound of wind outside or the way your pet is curled up next to you. - Challenge Your Old Thoughts
If you catch yourself saying, “I already know how this will go,” stop. Ask, “What if I don’t? What if this moment surprises me?” - Savor the Small Things
Whether it’s the smell of a candle or the taste of a cookie, let yourself really enjoy the little things.
My Challenge to You
This week, when you feel yourself slipping into stress or overwhelm, pause. Try to see the moment as brand new. Ask yourself: How would I experience this if I’d never seen it before?
Maybe you’ll notice something beautiful. Maybe you’ll feel a sense of relief. Or maybe—just maybe—you’ll find a little joy where you didn’t expect it.
Closing Thoughts
The holidays are a wild ride, but they’re also full of opportunity: to reconnect, to find beauty in the chaos, and to remind yourself that every moment is worth experiencing.
So, tell me—what’s one way you’ll try to see the season with fresh eyes? I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if this post resonated with you, share it with someone who could use a little mindful moment this season.
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